friendship

 

so here is something i have been pondering...

college and friendships.

i have been realizing how i really don't talk to a lot of my friends from high school anymore.

see,

there was this group of us.

we didn't have a special name or anything

but we were together all the time

like a stitched seam

but since college that seam has been pulled and we have gradually fallen away from each other

the worst part is, is that we are on the same college campus!

but it seems like recently it has been a one way show

me calling them to see if they want to hang out

but they are both in sororities and are too busy with that and partying

and on top of that i am busy too with younglife

so i don't blame it all on them.

our schedules just seem to clash. all the time.

so finally after some unreturned phone calls i called it quits

i stopped calling, text, writing on their fb walls

and decided that college changes people.

we aren't the same girls we used to be

we have different goals

different beliefs

different loves

and i was ok with that

then randomly last night one of them texted me

not a "hey, how's it going lets hang out"

but something that normal people who talk all the time would say

but i followed it up with a "p.s. how are you?"

returned with "good, i'm at work right now but we need to get coffee sometime"

and i agree.

just because she let me go i shouldn't just give up on our friendship right?

i just get confused.

i love her

but i don't love the way she has treated me in the past few years

i know forgiveness is in order

and i will forgive her.

but in all honesty

would you want to be friends with someone who doesn't share the same

beliefs

morals

&

loves

as you?

someone who cut you out of their life just because?

someone with whom there isn't much in common with anymore?

is it OK to not be friends with them?

you were best friends for years, swept away by the busy life of college....

a friendship ripped at the seam

mend it or not?